Be mindful how you treat people!

Gospel recording artist Fred Hammond is starting the year out with a bang! Many of us have watched Fred’s honest struggle with his knees. He even revealed a big disappointment last year. Well, he has let us in on a miracle in his life one year later!

Just a couple of days ago, Hammond underwent knee surgery. Only twenty minutes after the surgery, Hammond posted on Twitter, “Physical therapy 20 minutes after surgery, let’s go,” and posted the above picture. He also said, “Literally learning how to walk again. Stretching and exercising left til 6:30 then right leg @ 8:30… Pain, BUT I WILL BLESS THE LORD.”

Check out his note below:

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Hey family. ( from my hospital bed.)

23 years ago I put out my first solo CD called I am persuaded. Back then I couldn’t afford a booking agent so I put my home number on the back of the CD.. I know back then it look like we/Commissioned were BALL’n like crazy but we weren’t, we had modest little lives and it was cool because we knew it/BALL’n was on the way because we worked hard and believed the Promise of God that we’d be blessed.

I was married at the time and my wife and daughter BreeAnn (2years old) all slept in the same room due to the house being so small. And because of time zone differences sometimes the phone would ring after hours and I have to catch it to make the proper arrangements for a gig, but it usually wouldn’t ring too much after 11pm or 12am, and if it did i’d usually let the answering machine retrieve the call. But this one particular day the phone rang at 2AM so not knowing if it’s an emergency or not I answered the phone. To my surprise there was two young fellas on the phone who immediately begin to apologize. They said we didn’t think you would pick up the phone but I was telling my partner that your voice is on the answering machine and we just wanted to hear your voice on answering machine. Being a little baffled and still sleepy somehow I decided to chit chat for minute. I didn’t know these guys from Adam’s house cat but I begin to ask them a few questions like where they from? and they told me, I asked them how old were they, and they told me they were both 17 getting ready to graduate high school. I asked him how do they like the commission records and he said they were big fans then i asked about my solo record, was it out where they where and say yes we both have any and everything you put out Mr Hammond, and I thought that was pretty cool. We chatted for a few more minutes and I reminded them to keep the Lord first and continue to get good grades because you and do well in college and they replied with respect yes sir thank you for talking to us minister Hammond, and that was the last time I talked to them.

Back in February 2013 we held a video shoot for the United tenors. And a gentleman from Washington DC now in his 40′s walked up to me and said this is like a dream come true man, I’m actually here in Dallas watching you perform, this is great. He said he noticed that I was limping and what was the problem? And I simply said I have really bad knees and I gotta get them fixed. The brother was so excited he begin to explain to me an event that took place in his life with a friend of his when they were kids. He got his friend on the phone and put him on speaker, they begin to explain to me how glad they were and how my music was a blessing to them throughout the years (college years) but mostly how when they were 17 they called my house at 2 AM in the morning and I didn’t cuss them out or be rude to them in anyway but I took time to talk to them and encourage them they were glad about that. Here’s where it gets interesting The one brother from DC is a consultant to sports companies and pro athletes. And the other brother here in Texas and said its because you took the time to talk to us and not be rude to us and your music has been such a blessing helping us through college years and becoming men and musicians I want to hook you up.

He happens to be one of the leading orthopedic specialist in Texas and last Friday gave me and my family first-class treatment and opened up/operated on both my knees and put brand-new ones in them. And you know hospital stays and operations of any kind can be expensive and the brother has blessed me financially in that way as well.

LOOK AT GOD!!!!!

1 Corinthians 13.1&2

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. (1 Corinthians 13:1, 2 MSG)

Sometimes we don’t have to act all super Duper important, extra grand and suchy much, spiritually deep, quoting scriptures every five minutes to impress folk, or spitting prophecy all over people when they talk to you.

Sometimes all you have to be as nice and God will hook you up.

Blessings family

Thank you for your well wishes and support.

Love

f.

Look at God is RIGHT!!! Be careful how you treat people. You never know who He’ll use to bless you.

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I love my Ex-boyfriend?

So, over the past few days after publishing my post on forgetting the past and pursuing the future, I received a number of responses from people finding it hard to kick start the year because they were still hung up or unable to forget memories from their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or people they had share intimate memories with.

Some find it hard to let go. Some people log in through a mutual friend's profile, just so that they can keep tabs on their ex, without them knowing. Letting go can be difficult. Letting go of people, ideas, expectations, desires; letting go of bad habits, false beliefs and unhealthy relationships... the list goes on. 

If you want to move on, you must leave the past where it is: in the past. I'm not convinced you can have a new healthy relationship if you are still in constant contacts with your ex.

Every day, every moment presents an opportunity to create ourselves anew, to shrug off the baggage of the past, open ourselves up to the possibility of the moment and take action to create an incredible future. 

Some believe you don't have to burn all bridges with your past; they say it's possible to have a healthy platonic, no-strings attached relationship with their exes. Some of them even say they are best of friends now. One woman even said she is such good friends with her ex that she approached him to help find a job for her current husband - by the way she still hasn't mentioned to her husband how his new job came about.

So I'm asking an open question:

Is it OK to get in touch or stay in touch with an Ex?

SINKING SANDS

Hello people, hope your New Year is off to a great start? It was Wednesday movie night yesterday, a tradition myself and my wife are trying to develop in our bid to decisively do something romantic (click here for more details). So we switched on to OHTV for Wednesday night movies; showing was a Ghanian drama depicting the story of a newly wedded couple whose love turns to violence after a domestic accident leaves the husband disfigured starring  Ama K, Jimmy Jean Loius and Yemi Blaq.

This film made me sad and very close to tears as I witnessed glaring domestic violence and the heroine didn't even know it was happening to her. I decided to do a post on possible red flags on domestic violence. For more information on the subject, check out +StandtoEndRape Ster  . If you need to speak to someone in confidence you can send an email or send a message on Facebook.

So, if you think your spouse or partner is abusive, or you suspect that someone you know is in an abusive relationship, review the red flags and other information on domestic abuse and violence covered in this article. Not all abuse involves physical threat; emotional abuse can also leave deep and lasting scars. Recognising the warning signs and symptoms of spousal abuse is the first step, but taking action is the most important step in breaking free.

Victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence may be men or women

Although women are more commonly victimized. This abuse happens among heterosexual couples and in same-sex partnerships. Except for the gender difference, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate. It happens within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and financial levels. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended.

Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over their behaviour. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over another.

Spousal abuse and battery are used for one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over the victim. In addition to physical violence, abusers use the following tactics to exert power over the victims:

Dominance

Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his/her possession.

Humiliation 

An abuser will do everything to make you feel bad about yourself, or defective in some way. After all, if you believe you're worthless and that no one else will want you, you're less likely to leave. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.

Isolation

In order to increase your dependence on him/her, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. The abuser may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone.

Threats 

Abusers commonly use threats to keep their victims from leaving or to scare them into dropping charges. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He/she may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.

Intimidation

Your abuser may use a variety of intimation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, hurting your pets, or putting weapons on display. The clear message is that if you don't obey, there will be violent consequences.

Denial and blame 

Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behaviour on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abuser may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He will commonly shift the responsibility on to you: Somehow, his/her violence and abuse is your fault.